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Insights on people who are on the spectrum:
- Behavior patterns
- Making lists and hierarchies and really enjoying it
- Extreme sense of “justice”
- Love of systems – things that automatically do the right thing or protect against defects
- Need for things to be in the place where they are expected
- Having expectations met or not (e.g. liking surprises or not liking to be surprised)
- Sensitivities to certain types of sounds (misophonia) and movement (kinesophonia)
- Exceptional taste in art and food / strongly polarized interests in platforms, food, etc
- Appreciation for people having good taste
- Special interests / hyper-fixation on specific things and repetitive tasks
- People on the spectrum want to be around similar people
- We have more meaningful communication, more clear and understood communication
- A certain clicking sensation when communicating with similar people
- We are attracted to intelligence
- We are bored by normal people (NPCs)
- We cluster and create groups of similar people and are very happy in our groups
- We form cliques and have meetings of the minds (Friendsgiving, Garden Parties)
- Odd side effects of being on the spectrum
- Hyper fixation on certain genetic traits, e.g. fetishes
- Very super horny, very amazing sex drive
- Athletically gifted and able to use mind for awesome power like healing, feats of strength, feats of endurance, fighting, getting into incredible shape (it’s real, your mind is very powerful)
- Odd phenomena of being on the spectrum
- We were in special programs (gifted and talented) and don’t realize it’s not normal
- We know or are in contact with lots of internet famous people or at a minimum are fascinated / follow them
- High scores on standardized tests
- Have an easy time in school / college / grad school
- We are able to build large social presences and understand how to engage and build followings in social networks
- Dunning-Kreuger effect – believing that everyone else is as intelligent as you are
- Imposter Syndrome – denial that you are smart
Negative traits / things to look out for:
- Anxiety – focusing too much on the future
- Codependence – harassing your partner when they are asking for space and using coercion to try and get their attention
- Coercion – manipulation of each other through deceit, embellishment, controlling via blocking and avoiding communication or carefully managing information / presenting information in a specific or complex frame
- If people are being coercive you must investigate and get to the truth – this is why we love the game Clue, and why we
- We must watch out for and eliminate coercive behavior in our relationships in order to establish and maintain trust
- Conspiracies and paranoia – there are some conspiracies that could be true but if you go too far off the deep end, you can become a bit crazy and will definitely give other people the impression that you are crazy
- Behind all the conspiracies is some degree of truth through metaphor about yourself and how you think
- Depression – focusing too much on the past
- Substance abuse
- Drugs and alcohol affect neurodivergent people in exciting and fun ways depending on where you are on the spectrum, they can even be “performance enhancing” if used consciously – however too much of a good thing and the related risks such as dependence, withdrawal, and related mood disorders are risky
- Projection – taking something that you don’t feel good about within yourself and attributing it to others
- Rage / passive aggressive behaviors
- Throwing things into people’s rooms / intentionally creating drama and problems
- Raising your voice when angry
- Punishing your partner through withdrawal / becoming non-communicative
- Retaliation – tit for tat logic, like you did this so I must make it even by doing that to make it even
- Spiraling – Thinking about the same thing over and over and over and over and over
- Stalking – when it’s over, it needs to be over, you should let it go and leave folks alone
The Spookiest thing to look out for
- Schizophrenia – This is when you are fabricating realities and are experiencing / focusing on and actualizing things that are not real. I like to think of Schizophrenia like Ghost Busters the movie, you are trying to seek out and find the ghost and then
Powerful tool for combating paranoia
- Pronoia – Playing a game where you pretend that everything
Reading resources for understanding attraction, social dynamics, and dominance:
- The book “Fascinate”
- Robert Green
- The 48 laws of power – aka the 48 laws of being an asshole
- The art of seduction
- The 33 strategies of war
- Mastery
- Don’t text your ex happy birthday
- Non-violent communication
- Games people play / other social dynamics books
- The Wheel of Time
- Game of Thrones
- The subtle art of not giving a fuck
- Shakesphere
- The Highly Sensitive Person
- Jungian Psychology
- DSM-5
- Training Dogs
- Aging Well
Reading resources for puzzles, scifi, and conspiracy relevant interests:
- the illuminatus trilogy
- Look into the Pythagoreans and related lore
- Dan Brown Books
- The Secret of Secrets
- Daniel Suarez books
- Ray Kurzweil books
- Star Wars books
- Dune books
- Romance books
Reading / training resources for getting into shape and attracting people like us:
- Buy a scale – you can’t change what you don’t measure
- The Four Hour Body
- Pumping Iron
- (Pretty much anything high intensity interval training)
- Crossfit / Industrious / Fit Body gym
- Finding ways to feel good about yourself and having confidence in your appearance / loving yourself
- Use your own body as a tapestry, what you think looks good looks good
Keyword for attraction:
- Sapiosexual
Key interests:
- Astronomy
- Astrology
- Board Games
- Twilight Imperium
- Scythe
- Scrabble
- Chess
- Comics
- Dance / Swingdance / Tapdance
- Flow sports
- Skateboarding
- Onewheel
- Monowheel / Inmotion
- Rollerblading
- Martial arts
- Snowboarding / Skiing
- Circus / Carnivals / Acrobatics
- Competition
- Sports
- Debate
- Science Bowl
- Chess club
- Law
- Drones / Radio Control hobbies
- Medicine / Nursing
- Finance / accounting
- Social sciences / sociology
- Computer programming
- Cooking
- Elon Musk / Donald Trump
- Or in general, political interests
- Being strongly on either side should indicate an attraction to or rejection of the relative philosophies here
- Food
- Sushi
- Ramen
- Festivals and conferences – e.g. Renn Faire, Defcon, Comicon, Burning Man
- Gadgets
- Apple vs Android
- Genealogy / ancestry / genetics / inheritance
- Math
- Music – especially extremely complex music like Jazz, Tipper, and related bass music
- Psychology
- Puzzles
- Reading
- Specific coded movies and shows:
- Limitless
- Star Wars
- Harry Potter
- The Lord of the Rings
- Sense8
- The Matrix
- Gen V
- Mallrats / Clerks / Chasing Amy / Jay and Silent Bob Strike Back
- The X Files
- Ghost busters
- Marvel movies
- Specific places that are spectrum coded / travel interests:
- Germany
- Japan
- France
- New Zealand
- Russia
- Video Games
- Super Smash Brothers
- Zelda
- Halo
- Counterstrike
- Overwatch
- Starcraft
- Witchcraft / magic / the paranormal
- Word games, wordplay, general shows of being clever
- Yoga
Viewing resources for neurospicies:
- Rick and Morty
- Bob’s Burgers
- The Simpsons
- Anime (pretty much all of it)
- Dragonball Z
- Love on the spectrum
- Disney / Marvel content and movies
Useful tools for maintaining and fostering relationships:
- Therapy / both individual and couples therapy
- Creating lists / sharing and collaborating on group activities
- Setting and maintaining boundaries where and when appropriate
- “Safe spaces” allowing for communication without judgement (read non-violent communication)
- Avoiding yelling or other forms of violent coercion that can cause your partner to “shut down”
- Finding ways to collaborate and evaluate during conflict instead of fighting
- Letting things go – sometimes it feels better to just forget and forgive than to seek justice
- Apologizing and acknowledging when you are wrong, saying “you are right” is very powerful
- Creating protocols such as “let’s disconnect” when you need to have time and space to yourself
- Understand whether your partner likes to be surprised or not and do what they like